Matthew’s Story

I was born on August 18th, 2000 in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. Early on my parents knew something was a little different about me. At the age of 2 I was diagnosed with Autism. We had to move across the country to Calgary, Alberta in order to get the therapy needed to ensure I would be able to speak and live a fairly normal life. I went to a place called the society for treatment of autism ( now called Husky Energy center for autism ) and they worked with me for 4 years. At age 6 I graduated the program and we moved back to Winnipeg.

My elementary school years were a mixed experience. There was some bullying, but most people were decent. I had some friends, but not a ton. When I moved on to middle school things became worse. There was bullying, name calling, and I had no friends. The social cues and social norms changed so much as we entered our teenage years and I couldn’t keep up. However, when I entered high school things became better again, and as I progressed through high school things continued to get better. I had some friends, People knew who I was, and I felt more connected than ever before.

I graduated high school in June 2018 and since then, have moved on to university. This has been a real struggle. The classes are harder, and once again I have no friends as an adult. This is something I hope will change eventually, but for now, its very very tough. I want to pursue a degree that is going to lead me to a career where I can help people on a daily basis. This blog update will be posted on the Facebook page, and I encourage you to share with your friends on Facebook. Next update will come soon. Thank you.

Why we should be confident in ourselves

Confidence has been a touchy topic for me most of my life. I have always found it quite difficult to be confident in myself. A lot of this comes from a basic human trait, that we feel the need to compare ourselves to others. This is a problem because it prevents us from being happy with ourselves.

I have always had a habit of comparing myself to others, even though I know it’s simply not a good or healthy way of thinking. It’s something I’m working on, but it takes time to change and won’t happen overnight. When we can be confident about the various aspects of our lives, it allows us to simply be happier and healthier, and we feel mentally better. Definitely my powerlifting has helped me become more confident and feel physically and mentally stronger ( because it takes a lot of mental determination to lift heavy weights ) but it’s also led to me comparing myself to people who are stronger than me. So I simply need to focus on making myself stronger and not worry as much about other people.

The struggle to be accepted for who we are…

As people with neurological differences, we face some obstacles in society. A lot of these relate to other people not understanding why we do what we do and why we think the way that we do. We are different, not less. We deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. We have the power to change the world, because we are a community. There is no reason that people with differences can’t be accepted for who they are. A lot of people just haven’t yet realized that we can do great things too. Our differences can actually give us unique abilities.

One thing that really bothers me is when people say I have ” obsessions ” because that;s not what they are. They’re either special interests or simply things I am attached to in some way or another. Always take the time to lend a helping hand and be open to listening to those with differences, because we understand and know a lot more than most people think.

General life updates!

Hi everyone! Sorry for the absence of posts in the past week, I’ve been very busy! Overall things are going fairly well lately, I am enjoying my new classes in university, I have been going to the gym 5 days a week trying to regain all my strength and get stronger than I’ve ever been before. Life can be stressful at times but I think I am handling it fairly well. I have exciting things planned for 2020 for my advocacy and page, as well as the Patreon. I am very excited for this year and the things it may bring!

I hope you’ve all been doing well lately, and I do plan to write on the website blog here more regularly from now on! As of now the Facebook page has more than 338,000 followers which is amazing and when I started it over 3 years ago I never thought it would get so big! I am very happy to be making a difference in the world!

Have a great evening everyone!

Words mean more than you think….

Words have a lot of power. They can either help or hurt a person. They can bring you up or bring you down. Always remember that your words have power, and you should always use them in a wise way. Many people just say to brush it off and forget about it when someone says something rude or mean to me, but that is hard as an autistic person as our brains focus on things like this. This is why it is so important to always make sure that you choose your words wisely and make sure tat they don’t hurt anyone. Because it wouldn’t feel good to you if someone said some nasty things back.

By choosing our words wisely, we can create better connections and have better relationships with others, and prevent ourselves from hurting others. Always make sure you think before you say something, and ask yourself if you would be happy if someone did the same thing back to you. If not, then maybe it isn’t a good thing to say.

Dealing with the return to university

After three weeks off for winter break, it’s definitely an adjustment returning to university again. I’ve also been having some focus problems while in class and studying due to my ADHD, so I’m trying to deal with that right now. But overall the return has been going decent, I have new classes this term and I am setting goals to get better grades than I did last term, Hoping for A’s and B’s instead of C+ like I had in the fall term. I know I am capable of doing well, I just need to work on my ADHD and my focus and study habits. Overall I enjoy university, I just want to improve my grades a bit so that I can hopefully get into the faculty soon.

ADHD causes problems because it makes it difficult to sit in one place which of course makes it difficult to study. So I am dealing with that and working on it now. My hope is that I will be able to do better and hopefully get into the faculty next year.

Why you should never give up!

I say that you should never give up on your dreams! I’ve been discouraged before when I’ve had big goals, I’ve wanted to give up before, but I’ve kept on pushing. You should never give up on your dreams. That said, It’s ok to take a break from your goals for a while as long as you come back to it later, like I did with my powerlifting for a few months. But I’ve come back to it now and continue to pursue my goals. This can apply to any goal in life! Whether it’s to lose weight, get a new career, or do well in school, it’s ok to take a step back for a short period of time as long as you re-engage with your goals eventually and continue to pursue them.

Goals are important to have. Make them attainable, but still challenging. It will feel incredible when you eventually reach your goals!

Happy New Year!

Today’s blog post is short and sweet! I hope you had a wonderful 2019, and I want to send my best wishes to you for a great, happy, healthy, and prosperous 2020 for all of you! This community is like a family to me, and I want you to know that you have made a huge difference in my life. All the best for 2020!

Looking back on 2019

I think we made some progress in 2019 towards greater inclusion and acceptance! Not only was it a great year for my page and advocacy, but several major stories about autistic people and people with other different abilities ended up in the news this year. I absolutely think we can continue making a difference.

There is no doubt that we still have a lot of work to do, but I know we can make it. I know we can make the difference in the world that we need to make and we can create a better world for people with neurological differences. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that we can do it. Lets keep pushing on forward, because we still have many more years of work ahead of us before we can truly say we reached our goal.

Have a great New Years everyone! I look forward to 2020!

Why everyone should try to make a difference

In my opinion, I think everyone should try and make a positive difference in the world. Even if it is just something small like saying a nice comment or giving a dollar to a homeless person, these acts of kindness add up to create a difference in the world. There are 7 billion people on earth, if everyone did a simply act of kindness every day, the world would be transformed immediately.

I chose to to make a difference in a big way through my advocacy, speaking, and writing, but not everyone has to do something that big. You can make a difference through simply being nice and doing a couple nice things for others per week. I am a big fan of the idea that everyone has something to contribute to making this world a much better place! We can do it! We need everyone’s help though. I dream of a world where everyone is accepted for who they are, discrimination becomes a thing of the past, and nobody has to be homeless anymore.

Why kindness is key

Kindness is incredibly important. I have recently encountered several rude and nasty people on my page. For a person with autism, these can be hard to ignore as our mind makes it difficult to let things go. I am learning to just simply remove these kinds of people though. Simply being kind to someone is one of the best things you can do for them. Kindness is incredibly important. One kind comment can make a person’s day.

I would say that it’s actually easier to be kind than it is to be rude or nasty. If someone is mean or nasty to you, don’t let it get to you. Instead, shower them with kindness and it will hopefully change their point of view on the world. Don’t be that person that everyone hates because of your choice of words. Be the person that everyone loves because of your kindness and compassion towards others. If you are kind to others, karma will reward you with very good things in the future. Rude and nasty people will get the opposite at some point.

Kindness is incredibly important and that is something that is very very true. Remember the golden rule, treat others in the same way that you would like to be treated!